Twitter Etiquette
So I’ve been chatting to a girl I met on twitter recently. I don’t remember how our paths crossed, perhaps around Christmas, but at some point we started following each other. We have quite a lot in common – we support the same football team, watch some of the same TV shows, have broadly similar political views, are both fans of the Muppets (an essential quality I look for in people), are both cat people. Oh, and we live in the same town.
Which leads me to my question. What is the etiquette for crossing over from the Twittersphere to the real world? How do I ask her out? I’m not asking literally how, even a useless coward like me can DM her and ask her out, but is it the done thing? If/when I do eventually send that “so, do you fancy meeting for a drink” message, I want to be sure it is the next logical step from someone she is friends (in the old-fashioned, actual sense of the word) with, rather than a message which will trigger the online stalker freak alarm.
I guess the answer to this is “timing” – keep chatting, get to know each other, progress naturally. But I am the world’s worst at timing. I either wait too long until I am permanently parked in the Friend Zone and the moment has passed, or I don’t wait long enough and some across as desperate, needy and probably a potential serial killer.
My guess is this particular act of wooing will fall into the “wait too long” category but let’s see shall we? I may or may not report back with any developments depending whether there are any or not, and what those developments are.
Just ask privately. You have nothing to lose. Give it a go! You’ve been chatting since Christmas so it can’t hurt to try now.
To clarify we’ve been followers since Xmas but only chatting a few weeks. All going well though :)
Yea sooner than later is good, the longer you wait the more you’ll build up expectations!
I think you’re right but there is such a thing as too soon I think
3 months is not too soon!
True but we haven’t been chatting all that time. I think I’ll be asking soon though
I think she all ready knows you want to ask her out…I,m assuming your blog post gets automatically posted to twitter. Mine does and I didn’t know it for the longest time.
Luckily I have two twitters so these posts don’t go to the feed she sees. I’ve thought it through :)
Oh, aren’t you the clever one!
I have my moments
Hmmm… but if some enterprising matchmakers could find your other feed… and post a link to this post… hehehe…
No. I won’t.
But it’s so tempting to give you a little shove toward some fun.
It must be so frustrating reading about how inept I am haha!
*** sigh *** … Invite her to go see The New Muppets Movie (in theaters now)with you, you right eejit!!! Oh, not ‘dutch’ of course.
That’s my kind of plan
Never thought of using a Muppet movie to get laid… just might work.
i like to think ourside the box
As soon as a comment is made about bad reception or dodgy phone connection and lets face it these days all the phone networks seem to play up sooner rather than later, suggest you can always meet for coffee and a chat, make a joke of it and promise to keep sentences to 140 characters or less and see how she reacts :D
Top advice Paula! I think the Muppet film next week is my route to a night out but if there is a power cut in that mean time…
I love the line about only talking in 140 characters I think I might have to steal that when we meet up :)